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I am a feminist but…

On the last day of the Women History Month, I would like to share some of my confessions being a feminist.

I am a feminist but I am not an activist.

I am a feminist but I let my husband do the trash bins, every week.

I am a feminist but I love fashion and want to look presentable when I leave my house, even if this means I wear painful but oh so beautiful stilettos.

I am a feminist, a happily married one but I don’t always want to spend my energy and time in explaining this.

I am a feminist but I really love to cook and bake for my loved-ones.

I am a feminist but I always train on women only corner at my gym.

There, I said it, I have shared some of I am a feminist but….Those confessions are inspired by the The Guilty Feminist. I have been a fan of the podcasts on that blog. These comedy podcasts discuss issues women are facing, embrace feminism and imperfections. Some of my confessions above are silly but they are true.

For me listening to The Guilty Feminist podcast clarifies some doubts; it is ok to do/have some thoughts about certain issues while at the same time declaring myself a feminist. Oh, the book The Guilty Feminist from Deborah Frances-White, a comedian behind the podcast  is also hilarious and at the same time insightful.

Ending this serie of my guilty feminist confessions I want to emphasize I am a feminist and with my imperfections I keep striving for gender parity. This is what I have been teaching my daughter that everyone must get the same chances and opportunities no matter their gender. I am also showing her by being happily married, a feminist is not a men hater. Actually IWD’s campaign theme this year is #BalanceForBetter, a call-to-action for driving gender balance across the world. Women need men and vice versa.

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9 thoughts on “I am a feminist but…

  1. Thanks for sharing, Iโ€™ll have to check out that podcast. Do you have any other podcasts you like to listen to?

  2. Mbak, you voice my mind! Temen2nya suami banyak banget hardline feminist yg aku juga kurang setuju, juga ada banyak orang ngaku2 feminis tapi malah ngaco pahamnya

  3. Hear, hear! I think I am a feminist to the extend that I do what I wanna do, not what a women should do. Also, I am a men lover, but not a men pleaser ๐Ÿ™‚ Will listen to the podcast you mentioned.

  4. Menarik.Bila mendengar kata feminis memang kita perlu membaca sejarahnya juga ya…jadi lebih paham…

  5. One of my favourite podcasts too! I absolutely agree with you, some “feminists” can be so condescending to others and often they defeat the whole purpose of being a feminist. Love how The Guilty Feminist always start with these “Iโ€™m a feminist but…” statements because theyโ€™re so hilarious and it makes you feel “human” I guess.

  6. wah pacar saya juga feminim mbak tapi agak tomboy ๐Ÿ˜€ memang wanita diciptakan tidak sama ya karakternya ๐Ÿ˜€

    ijin follow ya kak untuk menjalin persahabatan agar mudah mendapatkan update artikel terbaru di blog sobat, dan berharap sobat bersedia menjadi teman saya, terimakasih ๐Ÿ˜‰

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