One day I had a conversation about life with two young friends of mine. They were in their mid 20es and full of energy. I loved to hear how they deal with things I have dealt with when I was their age. We discussed about planning our life, including career, love life, financial plan, ambitions etc.
Making plan is good because that means there is focus in our life. However no matter how eager we are in planning our life, there are unfortunately things we can’t control. Planning to do a study, scoring an ideal job or even getting married at certain age is what young people set on their list. Little do they know, the last one goes as it goes.
When I was young I didn’t set a target to get married by certain age as I found the idea quite suffocating. What if I didn’t meet a guy at that age? Would I get married just because I had planned it? Planning to get married by certain age when I didn’t even have a boyfriend seemed too scary to me. I thought then and now, it would cause an unnecessary stress in your life. Or on the contrary what if I would meet a guy way earlier before the ripe for marriage set date?
And not only that, when you set to get married or settle down with someone at certain age, supposedly you pass that age and people would start asking. Family gatherings on holidays seem from then on very hard to attend for you would get that question again.
And please do take note, nowadays one is not only defined by the marital status unlike a century ago. My point is I just want to emphasize here that making plans in your future which include other people’s feeling could be quite tricky. When you do this and can’t realize the goal, what would happen? Perhaps you would be stressed out or worse, frustrated. And all the fuss, for what? Enjoy your life instead. Go out see the world, work hard and validate yourself.
It might seem strange that I write this while I got married young myself, at the age of 23. Almost 20 years later I am still happily married although I didn’t plan it at all. Falling in love just happened to me. It hit me. And when you know, you know if he/she is the one for you. Then I remember my own quote in Carpe Diem.
Planning your life into details and stick to it doesn’t always work. Things in life do no stream smoothly exactly as you plan. There are chances to take, risks to avoid, challenges to pursue and disappointments to deal with. Life is what you make of it. Carpe Diem.
Please see this as an unsolicited advice based on my own experience and observation as a middle aged woman. You can take it or leave it. It is your life. Afterall life is what you make of it.
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