It’s been exactly a month since my sister’s passing. My family and I are coping with it. We don’t have What if’s or We should have done’s because we are aware that Nana had been finally freed from the pain.
The loss gets more tangible though. I have heard many stories about her, from my family and her friends. It turned out that my niece recorded a video with Nana on it. It’s a journal full of Nana’s wishes and last messages for us. This is something special the family would cherish.
Nana’s Facebook profile is still on. Up untill now her friends write messages regularly but my mum can barely read them. The loss becomes hard to bear for her. I let my mum grief in her own way. She is the one who is confronted with the loss daily. My mum took care of Nana until the second she passed away you know.
We all know death is unpredictable but yet it seems to me unnatural to bury your own child.
I have been through the 5 stages of grief. I knew when I heard that bad news in June last year, there were only two chances: a miracle that she might get better or the inevitable death. From that moment to end of November I was going through stages 1 – 4 fastly. So if I look at the graph above, I can say I am at the last stage. Acceptance.
However the feeling of losing her stays. I believe grief changes shape but it never ends. Some people think that you can get over with it and say, ‘It’s gone and I’m ok with it’. Actually, you’re not better, you have just learned how to deal with it. Like what I am doing right now.
Infographic is from Locness Design