My sister from Jakarta is visiting me right now. She’s the oldest in the family, I am the second, after me there are two younger sisters. Yesterday, we reminisced about our youth including our ex boyfriends. She is two years older than me, we had almost the same circle friends.
We talked about this guy who cheated me once with 2 other girls at the same time, au!!!! His friends told me about the first girl. I found out about the second girl thru my sister’s friend who happened to be a student at the same university where this guy studied (yep, that was what a sister for). This particular guy felt sorry for me when I confronted him that I knew about his affairs. A month later he sent me a letter, asking for forgiveness and begged whether we could move on as friends. Forgive him I could but being friends with him after what he did to me? Nope, nada, rien!!!
I mean, we had never been friends before but lovers, so why this request for friendship?. The attraction was still there at that time and the anger too :-D. Don’t get me wrong, I still have a good contact with my ex-bf now, but I don’t consider this as a friendship. They are guys whom I’ve ever dated.
To make a long story short, I don’t practise Platonic Relationship with hetero men (I have two good male friends, they are both gay). According to moi, a relationship between a man and a woman contains a particular sexual tension, this could decrease with time but won’t totally go away. When a woman has a male hetero friend, the physical attraction would be there I guess.
What do you think about this?